Archives For Character

Flickr image by Richard Masoner

Flickr image by Richard Masoner

“One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

“My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, ‘Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’

“This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck.’ He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you.

“Don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets. The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so…

“Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don’t. Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!”

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How would you define success? Is it a nice job, big house, new cars, closets full of clothes? That seems to be how we, as Americans, tend to view success. We see the guy driving the big Mercedes and wearing a nice suit as successful, while the guy driving a 15 year old pick up and wearing dirty work clothes may not have the same appeal. It’s easy to assume one is successful and the other isn’t.

Photo by Gareth Williams on Flickr

Photo by Gareth Williams on Flickr

There’s a good chance the guy in the Mercedes leased as much car as he could afford, is upside down on his mortgage, and is nearly $150,000 in credit card debt. He and his wife fight constantly over money, how much he makes, how much she spends. They take exotic vacations and eat at the nice restaurants paid for with credit cards. They live in real fear that they could loose the house if he looses his job, which he hates. Continue Reading…

Any decent copywriter would probably fire me for that title. It’s a phrase I repeat just about every night (unless I’m travelling). It started off simple, but has developed a meaning, maybe even a personal philosophy.

Hershey is our Chocolate Lab (Yes, sometimes I call my dog The Hershey). We have one of each color. Each have their own personalities and idiosyncrasies. This one lives for attention. There is no such thing as too much attention for that dog. How about an example?

Hershey enjoying a run through the snow

Hershey enjoying a run through the snow

It wasn’t all that long after we adopted her from the local animal shelter that we took her to the dog park. It was “Lab Day” hosted by a rescue group and everyone was invited to bring their Labs (Lab owners tend to think it’s the only dog anyone should have. I understand that.) We knew she liked people but we didn’t realize how much. Continue Reading…

Welcome to the Hallmark Holiday. That’s right, today is Valentine’s Day. It’s the day when we go out of our way to show our spouse or significant other how much we love them. Candy, cards, flowers, dinner out.

Some of you participate simply because it’s expected and all kinds of evil would rain down if you did nothing. If this is you then you are missing out. While you can’t go all out everyday, putting effort into your relationship like you hopefully are today, can take that relationship to a whole new level.

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Image by tinkernoonoo on Flickr

Make The Most of It

Valentine’s Day only comes around once per year, so take advantage of the opportunity. Hire a babysitter. Make reservations at a nice restaurant. Rent a movie and make dinner at home. Or go big and plan a weekend get away.

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I can’t begin to tell you how fast YOLO (You Only Live Once) got old. From pop song to posters to TV references. YOLO became an anthem for taking risks and living it up. An example would be, “Buy some new shoes, or pay rent? Shoes! YOLO!”. If you only live once, you might as well do it big. I saw one comedian on Twitter refer to YOLO as the poor man’s Carpe Diem.

Take risks because you only live once? Shouldn’t the fact that you only live once mean you should take LESS risk? Yeah, I’m officially old. In fact, let’s turn YOLO on it’s head. I am here to tell you that you should never take risks BECAUSE you only live once. Life is dangerous. The world is scary. Why put yourself in harm’s way?

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Did you make your to do list this morning? Or did you do it last night before bed? Despite when you made the list, what did you put first?

Several years ago I heard about a book by Brian Tracy called Eat That Frog! The title came from a saying that if you eat a live frog first thing in the morning, that is probably going to be the hardest thing you do all day. Everything after that will be easy by comparison. Another popular phrase is slay the dragon, meaning take whatever you are dreading the most and do it first.

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Photo by Mastery of Maps of Flickr

This is a great way too start your day for several reasons:

It builds character. Doing that difficult thing first takes resolve. We are by nature procrastinators. Once you get in the habit of slaying the dragon, it becomes easier.

It eases your mind. I got into this habit when I realized how much of my energy went into worrying about the dragon. I would spend my whole day putting off that phone call or conversation. But it had to be done. By getting it out of the way early, I didn’t have to think about it again.

It makes your other tasks seem easier. We usually like to spend time on things we can do easily or quickly, then the hard stuff gets pushed aside. When you tackle the worst first, the rest become less.

It shows you are proactive. If the boss asks you to do something that you don’t want to do, it looks much better when you can say it’s already taken care of.

It builds momentum: You’ll also find you can fly through your your task list faster once the frog has been eaten. Easier tasks are, well, easier! You also won’t drag them out in an attempt to forestall the meeting with that dragon.

It makes you younger. Okay, not really, but it can help reduce stress and tension, both of which will help you live longer.

Exceptions:

It’s not always practical to hit the hard stuff head on. Your dragon may be a presentation that doesn’t start until 3:00pm. Or you may need to return a dozen client emails before your go have that long meeting with your boss.

You also will have days where you have a ton of small, insignificant tasks that you could easily complete for a morale boost. There are days when I have 15 or 20 nagging little things on my list starting at me. Sometimes I will take an hour to knock most of them out if it means that I can focus on the big stuff afterwards.

This should be the exception. When able, take on the most difficult of your tasks first. It will give you more energy, reduce your worry, and make you more productive.

Do you start with the hardest thing first, or do you like to build momentum with easy tasks?


The Benefits of Reading

December 17, 2012 — Leave a comment

How many books did you read this year? If the number is low, you don’t have a lot of time to catch up, especially with the hectic schedule most of us keep from Thanksgiving through the end of the year. But you can start planning how you will read more in the upcoming year. Why read more? Below I’ve compiled a quick list of reasons everyone should make time for reading.

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Image by KellBailey on Flickr

Reduce Stress and Relax

I didn’t read a book cover to cover until after I was married. Like you, I have a million things to do in my day. Aside from my day job that occasionally requires travel and/or overtime, I do some freelance consulting work, serve on the board of a local non-profit, and manage to wedge writing in there somewhere. I also actively work to spend as much time with my wonderful wife as possible. So I get it, life is busy and busy often equates to stress.

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Who here enjoys waking up early? Isn’t it great being awake long before the sun even hints at breaking the horizon? No? You’d rather pull the covers back over your head because you stayed up too late the night before? Yeah, me too.

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Since I was in high school I have been one to stay up late drawing, reading, watching TV, or any of a dozen other things. When I was in my teens I would often stay up until 1:00am. I didn’t really have a bed time so long as I was able to get up in the morning and not sleep through school (and my grades were always fine). This followed me to college and then into grad school, burning the midnight oil because I was working and going to school full time.

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